Loy Young

It all goes back to the beginning. At birth, we all start out as victims since we cannot take care of ourselves. The path to either hero or villain leads all young children to a situation in which they themselves or their loved ones are victimized, which has a deep and lasting impact on their life.

The victim is full of good faith no matter what happens. He or she believes that a hero will come to the rescue, and screams for help. However, if the call is not answered the victim begins to lose faith.

Sammy, for instance, had her father shot dead by her uncle, right in front of her eyes. The little girl went into shock. There was nothing she could do to save her father, but she blamed herself for her inability to intervene for the rest of her life.
After her uncle stormed out of the room and out of town, little Sammy lay on her father’s body screaming until her mother came home from work. There were no heroes that day to save Sammy from the drama of jealousy, hatred and love, and she began to lose her faith in goodness.

And that’s what Sammy did. She started imitating her surviving mother rather than her nice father who was dead. By the time Sammy was a teenager, she was a pillion-rider of Hell’s Angels’ motorcycles and, like her mother, she slept around and took drugs. Sammy was one tough girl by the time I met her.

Victims store the toxic emotions from others, which they must get rid of, or suffer from until they break down and die. Once the victims have decided that life is unfair and turned villains, they pass on those negative sensations to their victims in turn, which gives them temporary relief from their inner pain. To be on the safe side, the villains initially test their strength by choosing victims weaker than themselves, especially children, the elderly or the disabled.

1. The villain in an unfair world

A considerable number of people sought my advice as a spiritual counselor after they had hurt their children or their partner. Bruce came to see me because in one of his uncontrollable outbursts of anger he had almost killed his son Jason. He had beaten him too hard, Jason went down, hit his head at the coffee table, and lost consciousness.

His partner, Carmela, was almost a saint, which made Bruce feel even worse. She always had an excuse for Bruce, even when he beat the children for having the music or the television up too loud. Their son, Jason, was always abused, as he had been the reason for his parents’ shotgun wedding.

Even though Bruce knew that his temper tantrums cost him many good positions despite being a fabulous chef, he couldn’t stop himself. His desire to hurt others became stronger every time he was fired from a job. His justification was, “it’s not fair, I’m the best chef around.”

After a few sessions, we realized that his anger was rooted in an incident that he had forgotten a long time ago. As a boy Bruce had a most cherished cat who had a litter. Bruce snuggled every one of her kittens and carried all of them around in his shirt as if he were the proud father. It was the beginning of a love affair.

After a while, Bruce’s father who also was a brutal man started growling about the mess in the household. There were too many kittens around and too many mouths to feed. One day, he had it. He put the kittens in a sack and drove to the river, forcing his son to come along. Bruce tried to stop his father, but he was no match for him, and his heart sank as the sack was flung in the river.

Back home, Bruce collapsed in bed with a temperature so high that his mother feared he was going to die. But his father just kicked the bed and told him to quit acting like a sissy. When Bruce recovered, his spineless mother, who was at his father’s beck and call, sided with her husband. Bruce’s pain and hurt turned into hate, both for his submissive mother and for his father. Nonetheless, Bruce started imitating him. Before long, he treated his mother just as badly as his father did and began to terrorize his sisters.

To survive since the day the kittens were drowned, Bruce numbed the day out of his memory and closed his heart so he would not feel the pain. He could be mean because he had cut off love. All that was left were his abusive actions that continued for over twenty years.

When he looked inside, the hurt left his body in a cloud of sulfur. I had Bruce massage his caved-in chest with a rock wrapped in velvet. The firmness of the stone in combination with the touch of the textile took him to the sensuality that is always buried beneath hurt and pain. Only then could Bruce feel the love he had for those kittens. Although Bruce had equated love with weakness, he eventually was able to accept that part of him and began to love himself.

Bruce woke up to the fact that he had married his mother in Carmela. The children were a different story. Without becoming aware of the fact, Bruce had felt unconsciously that his children would be taken away from him just like those kittens, so he avoided becoming close to them. Jason, the little boy who hit his head on the coffee table, and his sisters won a real father who made up for all the abuse they had suffered before.

Needless to say, villains feel so much hurt from all the stored toxic emotions that they cannot empathize with anyone else and are mainly concerned with releasing their own pain with cruel and mean methods. In fact, most villains do not believe in love just like most do not believe in God by any name whatever. If there was a God, how could the world be so unfair? And if there was love, how come they didn’t have it, except when they bought it? The villain believes that this unfairness is all someone else’s fault and does not accept any accountability for his life or actions.

Love is intangible and can only be reached by our spiritual nature or by the receptive heart of our emotional nature. Since the villain has long closed his heart to protect it from the emotional garbage he was spoon-fed, he can no longer love. To rehabilitate a villain, I found it necessary to uncover the hurt that was hidden underneath the anger, which momentarily would open up the victim part of the person. And many times I could then help the person to become their own hero.

The primary purpose of the educational training of the Soul Game is to make heroes out of the many victims and villains. The Soul Game is an advanced emotional game, and few humans become true heroes, as there are so many traps hidden in the storylines. But those who make it are through playing game.